Friday, 17 April 2015

Why do you need or want coaching?

If you find yourself feeling that you have had the same goals for some time but have not moved forwards towards achieving them or too slowly, then read on.

Even in our work we sometimes avoid setting goals and objectives and very often if this is not a requirement enforced upon us!

In our personal lives, most people bumble along without planning their personal objectives in life.

Research shows that this is mostly because we are focused on either surviving, being secure or achieving pleasure now. These drivers do not encourage us to be objective and plan for what we want and need in our lives.

If you are frustrated and ready to change all this then coaching can help you to get clear on your direction of travel and to formulate an action plan to achieve what you want and need.

Coaching will also help you to identify the resources including skills that you will need in order to achieve your plan.

At West of England Coaching and Counselling, the coaching process includes another dimension which is to help you to master your psychology.

This area is one that often keeps us bumbling along, our lack of confidence, for example, keeps us stuck where we are.

I will be blogging on this topic for some time so please look out for future posts.

In the meantime if you are serious about change and would like support plus some constructive challenge, please get in touch by sharing what you would like to achieve, through

Friday, 10 April 2015

Invest in You

If you feel or think that you would benefit from personal development but this is not something that your employer will invest in, please read on.

Whilst coaching and counselling is increasingly being supported financially by employers, especially for senior leaders, this is not always the case and may not be available to you.

Before you forget about the option of investing some of your hard earned money in you, please think on.

We are prepared to invest our money in a lot of things and yet research shows that the best things in life are not things at all, including a big house, an expensive car and designer clothes.

Rather the best things in life are experiences that include at least some personal development.

You may have watched the recent Bear Grylls series and been impressed by some of the famous individuals who took part.

The chances are that you were not impressed by their fame but rather by their attitude and behaviours in the face of some significant challenges.

In particular I admired the humbleness of Mike Tindall and the unrelenting positive influence of Vogue Williams.

Interestingly, with increasing maturity when we are asked to think about our personal selves we think and speak and are interested in others less about what we own and more about who we are as people and the experiences we have had such as our friendships with others and fears that we have overcome.

I think that it is good to invest in your physical health by exercising your body and eating healthily. What do you think? What are your actions here?

What about investing in your mind, most notably how you think?

Is your thinking helping you to live your best self life or not?

If not you may consider very seriously investing in you.

You could start with exploring self development through reading etc.

If you would like a steer in the best books to read for your goals or would like to know the best tools to use or would like support in your development journey, we can help.

You can get in touch on 01761 237400 or through

Wednesday, 25 March 2015

Why would I want to work with a business coach?

If you have been thinking about goals that you would like to achieve but have not got started on them or have some obstacles that have left you feeling stuck or putting the goals on hold please read on.

It is entirely normal in my experience for you to feel this way.

For one thing, there is your 'life as usual' to get on with and you may feel that you do not have the time or energy in your day to work towards goals albeit things that you would really like to do.

It is common to feel overwhelmed by the enormity of a goal because it is just that, a broad statement of intent. Until we break your goal down into achievable bite sized chunks or objectives, the goal just seems 'too much'.

A good coach will help you to get really clear on your goal(s) and then your objectives plus an action plan that is achievable, realistic and time framed to fit in with your life. A good analogy is that it is more realistic to have an eating plan that fits in with your being away from home than one which relies on you preparing everything yourself.

A good coach will be your conscience and hold you to account on your commitments including homework.

A good coach will have a process and structure that will help you get from where you are now to achieve your goals in an enjoyable way.

A good coach will have key skills such as asking the right questions, listening actively and empathy.

Research shows that working with a coach often saves time and avoids procrastination.

Life is meant to be progressive. We are by our natures goal focused.

If it is more important to you to progress yourself rather than standing still and possibly stagnating, please get in touch via

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

Are you Stressed?

If you are suffering executive stress then you are not alone. Please read on.

Executive psychological health is under increasing strain.

We know that the majority of executives rarely report their stress, often ignore it and do not do anything positive to address it.

We also know that executives are more likely to self-medicate with alcohol or food, rather than do healthy habits instead such as exercise or meditation.

Stress is not something that executives talk openly about in the workplace. However, I am finding that my clients do share their stress at their coaching sessions. This means that we can start to address it.

Image management and ego are two key reasons why executives may not admit to stress being an issue. We are encouraged to project a strong self-image and that stress is 'for wimps'.

Your coaching session may be the only place where you are comfortable to unburden yourself of your stressors and safe in the knowledge that you will not be judged negatively for it.

Through honest meaningful discussion about the triggers, resources, support and tools to address it we can reduce your stress at least to manageable levels. These can also help you to be proactive so they are there for you at times of stress.

If you are suffering from stress it is a good idea to discuss this with your GP.

For further information and support please visit www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling or call us on 01761 237400.