This blog aims to provide you with ways to cope better with the anxiety and fears that occupy your mind and impact the whole of your life.
A period of honest reflection helps.
I suggest that you ask yourself the following seven questions
- What am I afraid of?
- Why am I afraid of this?
- Is this true? what evidence do I have for this fear/worry?
- What is this belief doing to me?
- Who would I be if I did not have this belief?
- What is the opposite of this experience?
- What would I like to believe instead that would be helpful to me?
You may not have all of the answers on first sitting but if you continue to reflect on these questions and others that you can think of you will come up with more positive alternatives and this will lead to your having more self confidence and enhance your self-esteem.
Even something simple like moving from 'I cannot do x' to 'I can do x if I choose to by coming up with a new approach' will lead you to better choices, a more optimistic outlook and better results if you are hungry enough. I mean that if your intent is 100% and your attitude is positive then your will move forwards.
You could also ask yourself what you would notice [and others] if you let go of your fear/angst. What would you feel then?
Many people use meditation to address their anxiety and worries so you could sit in a calm place for say ten minutes a day focusing on your breathing and feeling the emotions that surface. This process will help you to know that your anxieties will not overwhelm you and that you can survive them simply by breathing.
Activities may also help you to address your anxiety such as meeting new people through a club of interest and of course exercise that releases feel-good hormones into your system that combat anxiety and leave you feeling more in control.
If you are resisting change or would for other reasons like help in addressing your anxieties please get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk and please leave a comment if you have used and enjoyed the changes in thinking stimulated by this blog.