If you want to increase your success in work and in your life as a whole then please read on.
I think that you need to set aside an hour of your time in the next week and reflect on the questions that I pose to you below.
1. What does your best self do? When was the lats time that you felt totally congruous with what you were doing and how you were doing it? This is your best self. You will want to do more of this in order to increase your day to day successes. Think of another time and another if you can so that you build a detailed picture of what you are doing when you are your best self.
Take time to reflect on these powerful questions because they will help you to get more of what you want in your life particularly in terms of your relationships.
2. Do you spend a lot of time negatively introspecting about your past - what I should have done/said, what I shouldn't have done/said? This is one sure way of creating negative thought patters that lead to anxiety, loss of your intellectual control and high jacking of your intellect leading to your subconscious emotional mind taking over - yes, your inner seven year old.
3. Do you spend a lot of time negatively forecasting the future, often whilst in bed or otherwise on your own during the day? Typical thought patterns in this case are 'this won't go well for me, I won't be able to do it, I am not good enough to present, I will always be on my own and so on.This is the second behaviour behind negative thought patterns that lead to your experiencing anxiety, loss of intellectual control and your emotional seven year old taking over.
Now whilst seven year olds are great they are not good at solving adult problems.
Numerous studies have shown that people who live their lives focused on right now, the mindful people, focusing all of their attention on what they are doing right now, are happier and more successful and earn more than those who worry about the past or future.
Your challenge is to live a week just focusing on the here and now. If you need inspiration watch children.
When you have mastered this and feel calmer and more in control, you can start to positively plan for the future, all the time remembering that plans often have to be flexed and changed and hence the saying 'god laughs at our plans'.
That's it from your thinking coach this week.
Do let me know how you get on by leaving a comment.
I am here to serve you by helping you with your unique personal and professional development needs and to get you what you want via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or if you prefer to call I can be reached on 01761 237400. I offer face to face and/or telephone support if you live at distance. Yours, Pam Madden