Wednesday, 19 July 2017

Building your self-esteem

If you are someone who wants to build your self esteem then you are not alone.

Most of us can identify times in our lives when we have felt low self-esteem and confidence.

Whilst confidence is contextual, I think that we can say that when life is going well we feel confident even though there will of course be contexts where we are not. When life hits us hard our overall feeling of confidence often drops too.

I think that self-esteem is somewhat different. This is how we feel about ourselves often regardless of how our life is going. This might stem from childhood experiences and memories when we were told we were not good enough or were hopeless at some things. In youth we are highly emotionally imprintable so we believe what we hear and carry this with us often into adulthood.

So how do you go about building your self-esteem? Here are my ten short top tips for you.

1. Have 'good enough' thoughts about yourself, avoiding the drive to be perfect that's impossible.
2. Help and support others, always aiming to do the right thing.
3. Do daily self-esteem habits, namely eat healthily (low sugar!), exercise and sleep well.
4. Remind yourself why? For health and happiness.
5. Ask people you care about what you are good at and note these down in a journal.
6. Write 3 things in your journal each day that you did well
7. Think about 'failures' as learning
8. Set small goals to achieve each week or month
9. Spend most of your time with supportive people and ask for what you need from them.
10. Remember that comparing yourself with others is the death of joy.

Often self-esteem issues rooted in our past can be hard to shift. Research shows that hypnotherapy can be effective in resolving subconscious dysfunctions such as low self esteem that are holding us back. If you would like help in this area please get in touch by e mailing me: pam@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk





Tuesday, 11 July 2017

Your Career Mindset

If you are wanting to transition careers or even improve your career prospects in your current role please read on.

Looking back at my school years I realised that school success was as much if not more about mental strength as it was about learning and remembering for exams. I remember one friend who worked hard at school but was so worried about exams she left school with no qualifications.

I think that I will go as far as saying that for me mental strength including qualities such as assertive, confident, calm and positive, is key to success at school and at work and ultimately drives individual happiness.

What I am suggesting is that to progress in your career, whether into something new or improve in your current role or to be promoted, you really need to work on your psychology. Some might call this character or attitude or personality.

What I have found is that mental strength must become a daily habit reinforced by certain contributory daily habits such as eating healthily most of the time, doing some exercise and getting the right amount of sleep for you.

I also find that daily affirmations work well such as 'just for today I will remember that I have mind strength and focus'. Repeating such affirmations first thing to yourself or aloud alone or with others helps set you up for the day. You will more likely do those actions that you identify as needed to move careers or up skill in your current career, for example. Compare that with 'I will do something tomorrow'. Let me remind you that neuroscience tells us that what we focus on now, today, is what we get.

Let me know how you get on. If you would like help in your quest, please contact me through
01761 237400 or by e mail, enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk.

Wednesday, 21 June 2017

Become a High Performing Individual whatever your career

How would you feel if you knew that you are working you way towards being your best self?

Happy, right? Perhaps the most cited life goal by most of us.

For me, like a lot of you out there, being my best self and being happy is good for me and others because I have the optimal resources to help me and others.

So how do I become the best version of myself, I hear you ask.

We can provide a complicated answer to this question or a simple answer. The simple answer is the starting point that will lead you on to all the other things that you do as a result of this simple trigger. And by doing all of those things gradually you will be walking through life building on the best version of yourself.

The simple answer is to develop your confidence. Your confidence is directly linked to what you tell yourself, what thoughts you pay attention to, what thoughts you choose to invest in.

So, if you tell yourself negative stuff like 'I feel anxious...worried...fed up' then that is how we are going to feel. Those unwanted negative thoughts and feelings generate unwanted emotional and physical responses in our bodies. Ultimately the result is a negative impact on what we do, such as moaning to a friend.

Whereas if you tell yourself that 'I am going to feel calm, relaxed and in control of myself and my life' then that is how you are going to feel. Ultimately by focusing on this affirmation/mantra in the now each and every day, you will begin to notice and enjoy the positive changes in your life.

For example, you may find yourself dealing with problems better, taking up an enjoyable hobby or achieving better results at work.

Try it for yourself and let me know how you get on via enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk

Thursday, 8 June 2017

Career Transition Blog

If you are considering changing your career somewhat or radically then this blog is for you.

I would like to invite you to take 5 manageable steps to kick start your career transition.

I invite you to consider your thinking on changing your career as a hopeful opportunity rather than something to fear. This alone will help you to take the first steps on your career transition journey.

What would I recommend that you do next?

1. Make a true assessment of what you are good at. My tip here is to ask people that know you well, to include work colleagues and people in your personal life.

2. Fit what you are good at to possible careers. Use google, careers sites, ask others and use your own knowledge.

3. List your achievements that you can use in the future career options.

4. Step out of your comfort zone and move into the learning zone. Research the career options that come up at 2.

5. Take one step a day towards your new career. For example the first step may be to hone in on 2-3 career options. The second step may be to assess the 2-3 options against what is important to you, For example you may rule out a career with high travel requirements/a long commute due to your health.

My role as a coach is to provide you with my full attention, to ask you powerful questions to help to raise your self belief and achieve the outcomes that you want. We will clarify your direction, help you to overcome obstacles, raise your motivation and achieve your action plan.

If you would like help and support in moving your career dream to a reality or if you would like help in deciding what that career might be, please get in touch via enquiries@westofenglandcoachingndcounselling.co.uk or call 01761 237400.

Friday, 27 January 2017

Career Development

Are you thinking about reviewing where you are with your career and wanting to develop it?
If you are then please do read on.

Early in the year is a good time psychologically to do a  career review. For your own learning and growth as well as to achieve progress in certain areas such as financial, are often good drivers.

How do you go about this?

I provide one tried and tested approach here.

Step 1: Brainstorm your key achievements over the last 18-24 months. Did you set career objectives and to what extent did you achieve those?

Step 2: What are your insights and learnings from these achievements?

Step 3: Have you been focused on the right things over the last 18-24 months in order to achieve your career goals and objectives?

Step 4: What is outstanding from previous objectives set? Perhaps develop an action plan with resources required and timescales to complete these.

Step 5: What are your current goal and career objectives? What is driving these?

Step 6: Develop a plan for the next 18-24 months for your career including actions, resources and timescales.

This 6 step career development review approach will help you to clarify your career direction ad provide you with some motivation and stricture to make it happen.

If you would like help and support on your career development journey please contact us on 01761 237400 or write to us at enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or fill in the contact us form on our website www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk