Why Professional Coaching Works

I asked a client recently what role processing and reflecting in her coaching sessions had on her life. 

She said that along with discussing options, she felt that a void in her thinking is filled through her coaching work. Paula added that she feels more in control of the decisions that she is making rather than “pootling along, drifting into the currents created by others” [I love this metaphor and will keep it in my mind].

This sense and way of being more in control [as far as we can be, in my opinion] improved her success with work and personal goals.

Paula added that the mentoring work which we do, where she asks for advice, gives her tactics and strategies to apply and note for future reference the ones that work best for her in any context and scenario.

I coach, counsel and mentor individuals because I am passionate about helping people to develop their own unique self, to think, be and feel better for it. We discuss habits that work and use psychological tools to reinforce these, for example belief change work.

Get in touch to discuss your wants, needs and budget.

Big love,

Pam

Overcoming Fear

 A client wanted to address her fear of presenting

Despite preparing the presentation content thoroughly, she knew that she would have nerves, culminating in a panic attack, shortly before she was due to present and would make an excuse. Someone else would step in and she would feel relieved.

Our physiological experience belies what is going on in our mind. The thoughts she was having were negative and causing her anxious physical symptoms: she told herself that she would colour up, forget her words and that people would think she was weak.

Imagine yourself about to descend down a mountain on your skis. Are you anxious or excited? Physiologically these feelings are the same. How we present the feelings to ourselves determines whether it manifests as excitement, or fear.

We discussed this analogy and my client was able to say:

“So if I can get excited about it, I will experience the same feelings, but it will be ok?”

We had a conversation about an example topic and what could be exciting about the content or the way she presented it.

I have just received a call from her to say that she had presented to a small group, as a trial of her new approach and it went well.

Same feelings, different thoughts.

Choose your thoughts carefully.

Big love,

Pam

Outcome focused Coaching

The desired outcome is a great way to focus the approach we take

One of yesterday’s clients was an initial consultation. They said that the takeaway was thinking more specifically about their outcome.

My coaching starts with a complimentary consultation to check for rapport, to discuss target outcomes, approach and to outline the budget. Some clients self-fund, wanting to control the agenda entirely; others are organisation funded.

My approach thereon is tailored to desired outcomes. It combines solution-focused coaching, advising, mentoring and counselling. With over 30 years in business and people development, I can help you to develop the behaviours and strategies that you need to achieve your outcomes.

Keep moving forwards!

Pam.

Are you Fulfilled?

What is your Purpose?

Where do you fit in?

Do you feel like a square peg in a round hole?

Do you feel a void inside because you know deep down that you are in the wrong place?

Or maybe you feel like it is the right place but wrong approach?

You feel tension as you have more questions than answers. Do you want better but do not know what that is and how to articulate it; it is a feeling.

You want to have a clear identity and purpose but do not know how to achieve these.

You want to be happier personally and professionally but feel stuck.

I worked with a client who presented herself in this way at our first meeting. We focused on a coaching exercise that helped her to pinpoint precisely what she did want.

Gradually she formulated her purpose and identity based on what she wanted. We used her values, skills and preferred behaviours as part of this process of logical levels. We also had conversations about ideas on how to get there, with manageable small steps that she took weekly. By addressing her problems, we helped to simplify her life, and her business.

People are fascinating!

Big Love,

Pam.