What have you done for you lately?

Are you Kind to yourself?

Do you spend time and money on your development?

Research shows that the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder you are in your relationships.

People who lack self-compassion are likely more controlling in relationships.

If you accept yourself as imperfect the more inclined you are to accept limitations in others.

When you do not rely on others to meet all of your emotional needs and can meet many of your own, you are also likely to have more emotional resources to offer to others.

So what can you do for yourself.

You can start by forgiving yourself of your limitations whilst at the same time being grateful for your strengths.

Keep a journal to record what comes up and ask others who know you well for their feedback such as a work colleague and family.

You can also develop some beliefs that you rehearse regularly such as 'I am a kind person who helps others when they need it so I reward myself with a regular massage'.

You can also challenge negative beliefs that you ruminate on such as 'I am not good enough' and replace them with beliefs that are kinder and specific such as 'people tell me that I am a really good listener'.

You can go one step further and ensure that your job makes you feel good about yourself by drawing on your strengths.'

Self-development takes many forms. Ask yourself 'how would I like to develop myself over the next 12 months?'

Would you like to learn to speak a foreign language, for example?

Learning something new is great for your self-esteem as well as a way of being kind to you.

When was the last time if ever that you asked your boss if you could develop your skills by working with a coach?

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