Perspective and You

This blog is all about gaining perspective so if you feel that your life seems a constant emergency then this is for you.

Richard Carlson's self-help book tells us to 'not sweat the small stuff' and you know that a lot of what you sweat about is small stuff.

Spending too much time and energy on problems can inflate their importance.

Psychologically spending too much time on problems often feeds those problems and keeps them alive as problems.

If you make a firm choice about the direction in which you want to go your own subconscious mind will do its homework and feed you with possible options for your problems and worries.

Quite often you do not need a solution, rather a sense of perspective.

A good question to ask yourself to determine whether it is small stuff or something worthy of your time and energy is 'how much will this really matter a year from now?'

My philosophy is that we will always have problems with the skill being to focus on the big stuff and keep the small stuff in perspective.

Are you creating your own emergencies sometimes?

Clearly you are right and human to be blindsided by bereavement or some other sudden shock which take time to move on from.

Carlson writes 'true happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems but when we change our relationship to them'.

What 3 key lessons can you learn from to get more perspective?

1. Practice being patient - by resolving not to get wound up by what happens you will strengthen your perspective muscle.

2. The world is full of people who think that they are right but does it really matter? By resisting the urge to correct people egos won't need so much defending and fewer conflicts will occur.

3. Practice ditching your own ego - this one is really helpful because when we don't take things personally we are freer and can enjoy the day.

Please let me know how you get on and if you want help and support on this or any other aspect of your work or personal life please do get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk