Do you put things off that you know would raise your self-esteem and happiness?
If so this blog will help you to get on with those things and feel better about yourself.
Firstly stop beating yourself up. It is common to put things off, changes that require some effort, at least initially. Why?
Usually due to negative forecasting such as 'I won't be any good at it'.
To get yourself into the right mindset where you want to do something you need to strengthen your intent.
We know intent. We may have said a thousand times 'I am going to lose weight'. Intent is when you say what you want and this time you mean it.
And here is the key. You can strengthen your intent any time you want to just by seeing your success as a real possibility.
Sit down, close your eyes and imagine a picture of yourself as you want to be. All the unwanted patterns of behaviour have stopped and everything in this picture is as you want....see it, feel it, experience it. Make the picture bigger, bolder, brighter and when you are feeling really good about yourself leave this picture in the mirror of your mind to serve as an attracting force...believe that you will get there with all your heart.
Your subconscious mind now knows what you want and it will come up with options and ideas to help you to get there.
Remember that if something is worth having it may take time so you may need to be more realistic about your expectations.
Wanting something now can leave you disillusioned that 'it hasn't worked' and stop bothering.
Find different things to appreciate about your journey e.g. enjoying walking in the fresh air to lose weight or having made more time to focus on you.
Avoid over thinking - just do it as the Nike saying goes. You will feel better about yourself.
The key to your success is repetition. The more you do the exercsie in this blog the more successful you are likely to be.
Let me know how you get on and for all of your support needs either professional or personal please visit www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk to work with a trusted authority in people development.
Thursday, 14 June 2012
Paying Attention to You
Is your life journey feeding your soul?
By this I mean are you able to linger in something that makes you feel good about yourself that is not to do with the relentless routine business of life including making money?
You may be lucky enough to love your work - it is still work with demands and deadlines.
Do you pay attention to the most important element of your life - you?
Are you living your life according to your values, what is important to you, such as helping others?
When was the last time that you reflected on what makes my heart light and me feel happy?
What is your meaning?
Who are you and are you being that person?
You are by virtue of being human a creative person whether in a practical way or in a more intellectual way.
Whatever your talents I would encourage you to express them, absorbing and losing yourself in something that gives you meaning.
For me I find real meaning in helping people to change their thinking, their behaviour to give them better results in life - the worrisome and under-confident executive, the warring couple, the individual at a cross-roads in their career - I face these individuals and others like them through my interior life to provide the right words at the right time in the right way so that they can move forward with their fresh insights and perspectives.
What is your passion?
You may be working at it or it might be a hobby?
To have a passion is to have a creative force that guides and steers your life and keep you at a vantage point from which the best opportunities in life are seen and available to you.
Having this internal guide sets you apart from those just going through the habitual routines of daily living.
Perhaps you will take some time this week to ask yourself who are you that is not a machine going through your routines?
What feeds your soul? Is it cooking, acting, writing, making clothes?
Whatever your passion that is perfect for you.
If you have found this blog to be useful please share your thoughts/feelings.
For all of your goals, objectives, results support needs, please get in touch with us via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
By this I mean are you able to linger in something that makes you feel good about yourself that is not to do with the relentless routine business of life including making money?
You may be lucky enough to love your work - it is still work with demands and deadlines.
Do you pay attention to the most important element of your life - you?
Are you living your life according to your values, what is important to you, such as helping others?
When was the last time that you reflected on what makes my heart light and me feel happy?
What is your meaning?
Who are you and are you being that person?
You are by virtue of being human a creative person whether in a practical way or in a more intellectual way.
Whatever your talents I would encourage you to express them, absorbing and losing yourself in something that gives you meaning.
For me I find real meaning in helping people to change their thinking, their behaviour to give them better results in life - the worrisome and under-confident executive, the warring couple, the individual at a cross-roads in their career - I face these individuals and others like them through my interior life to provide the right words at the right time in the right way so that they can move forward with their fresh insights and perspectives.
What is your passion?
You may be working at it or it might be a hobby?
To have a passion is to have a creative force that guides and steers your life and keep you at a vantage point from which the best opportunities in life are seen and available to you.
Having this internal guide sets you apart from those just going through the habitual routines of daily living.
Perhaps you will take some time this week to ask yourself who are you that is not a machine going through your routines?
What feeds your soul? Is it cooking, acting, writing, making clothes?
Whatever your passion that is perfect for you.
If you have found this blog to be useful please share your thoughts/feelings.
For all of your goals, objectives, results support needs, please get in touch with us via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
Thursday, 7 June 2012
Perspective and You
This blog is all about gaining perspective so if you feel that your life seems a constant emergency then this is for you.
Richard Carlson's self-help book tells us to 'not sweat the small stuff' and you know that a lot of what you sweat about is small stuff.
Spending too much time and energy on problems can inflate their importance.
Psychologically spending too much time on problems often feeds those problems and keeps them alive as problems.
If you make a firm choice about the direction in which you want to go your own subconscious mind will do its homework and feed you with possible options for your problems and worries.
Quite often you do not need a solution, rather a sense of perspective.
A good question to ask yourself to determine whether it is small stuff or something worthy of your time and energy is 'how much will this really matter a year from now?'
My philosophy is that we will always have problems with the skill being to focus on the big stuff and keep the small stuff in perspective.
Are you creating your own emergencies sometimes?
Clearly you are right and human to be blindsided by bereavement or some other sudden shock which take time to move on from.
Carlson writes 'true happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems but when we change our relationship to them'.
What 3 key lessons can you learn from to get more perspective?
1. Practice being patient - by resolving not to get wound up by what happens you will strengthen your perspective muscle.
2. The world is full of people who think that they are right but does it really matter? By resisting the urge to correct people egos won't need so much defending and fewer conflicts will occur.
3. Practice ditching your own ego - this one is really helpful because when we don't take things personally we are freer and can enjoy the day.
Please let me know how you get on and if you want help and support on this or any other aspect of your work or personal life please do get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
Richard Carlson's self-help book tells us to 'not sweat the small stuff' and you know that a lot of what you sweat about is small stuff.
Spending too much time and energy on problems can inflate their importance.
Psychologically spending too much time on problems often feeds those problems and keeps them alive as problems.
If you make a firm choice about the direction in which you want to go your own subconscious mind will do its homework and feed you with possible options for your problems and worries.
Quite often you do not need a solution, rather a sense of perspective.
A good question to ask yourself to determine whether it is small stuff or something worthy of your time and energy is 'how much will this really matter a year from now?'
My philosophy is that we will always have problems with the skill being to focus on the big stuff and keep the small stuff in perspective.
Are you creating your own emergencies sometimes?
Clearly you are right and human to be blindsided by bereavement or some other sudden shock which take time to move on from.
Carlson writes 'true happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems but when we change our relationship to them'.
What 3 key lessons can you learn from to get more perspective?
1. Practice being patient - by resolving not to get wound up by what happens you will strengthen your perspective muscle.
2. The world is full of people who think that they are right but does it really matter? By resisting the urge to correct people egos won't need so much defending and fewer conflicts will occur.
3. Practice ditching your own ego - this one is really helpful because when we don't take things personally we are freer and can enjoy the day.
Please let me know how you get on and if you want help and support on this or any other aspect of your work or personal life please do get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
Wednesday, 6 June 2012
Can You Switch Off?
Switching off from your technology and allowing daydreaming is essential for your well being and inducing a sense of calm.
Daydreaming, just being, listening to a relaxation CD allow you time for subconscious reflection and contemplation.
Technology is not bad for you.
Technology is not great when it comes to your thinking.
For example, you may find that writing your ideas in a notebook makes your ideas yours and in your handwriting.
This also allows you time to work at your own real pace rather than through accessing multiple information sources.
What technology cannot provide you with is pen and paper creative thinking, a walk in the countryside, contemplation...
Our brains need to switch off sometimes, to 'clear out the clutter' to make room for the current imperatives in your life.
If you find it difficult to switch off and are experiencing some stress in your life think about committing to one of the ideas in this blog to help you, or something else...
If you would like help and support with your needs please do get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
Switching off from your technology and allowing daydreaming is essential for your well being and inducing a sense of calm.
Daydreaming, just being, listening to a relaxation CD allow you time for subconscious reflection and contemplation.
Technology is not bad for you.
Technology is not great when it comes to your thinking.
For example, you may find that writing your ideas in a notebook makes your ideas yours and in your handwriting.
This also allows you time to work at your own real pace rather than through accessing multiple information sources.
What technology cannot provide you with is pen and paper creative thinking, a walk in the countryside, contemplation...
Our brains need to switch off sometimes, to 'clear out the clutter' to make room for the current imperatives in your life.
If you find it difficult to switch off and are experiencing some stress in your life think about committing to one of the ideas in this blog to help you, or something else...
If you would like help and support with your needs please do get in touch via www.westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
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