So you have set some goals and you are working on them but there is something missing...what happened to enjoying today, now, this moment?
So I am writing this blog to remind you to keep a list of the things that make you happy now - just ordinary everyday things which you may have overlooked for a period like the view from one of your rooms, sunshine, a great meal...
Think about what you already have - Even better list these things in a journal and keep going until you have a full list of all of your blessings.
If you find this hard, think about what you do not have and do not want. Add these to your blessings list.
You may notice that the acquisition of things brings happiness but this is ephemeral. Numerous studies have shown there is nothing sustainable about acquisition - even for high winning Lottery individuals.
There is also something researchers call the Hedonic Treadmill which is when you say "I will be happy when...I have lost weight / got married / started a family / got my face lift etc".
The trouble with this outlook is that once you get used to the next level of status you reach a new norm which in itself becomes unsatisfying - in essence more wants more.
Happiness is not a destination... it's a state of mind. So recognise what you have, smile, enjoy what you are doing today and at the end of the day write down what has gone well in your journal - small things do count.
After all, big events and achievements happen less often.
And remember that whilst it is great to have goals and action plans, it is most important to live in the moment as this is all we have. Life is fragile and short.
If you have found this blog to be useful please let me know and/or get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
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