Are you like the vast majority of people who recognise that they do not like speaking about their financial position?
For one of my clients this issue has resulted in her feeling uncomfortable having money and therefore she spends as she earns and has no savings.
Recently she set herself a goal of saving for those things that her and her partner want which are 'bigger ticket' - including a conservatory and a replacement car.
Her beliefs around money including 'I believe I shouldn't have money' and 'Easy come easy go' - among others - were impacting her behaviour.
She has now set herself a new goal 'To get pleasure from saving and to think 'Do I need it?' before spending'.
She recognised that to enjoy life in the present and to plan for the future she needed a balance between spending and saving so she could be proud of herself.
In order to work on her goal we spent time visualising her spending and saving some money and this mindful approach left her feeling more comfortable and more in control.
Would you benefit from experimenting with visualising yourself in this way?
Perhaps set aside some time to sit quietly in a comfortable chair, then to close your eyes and relax your body - perhaps by imagining yourself in some place which you find tranquil.
Then imagine yourself saving an amount that you can contract with yourself each month - perhaps in a savings account - and imagine realising what you are saving for - something for someone else perhaps.
Perhaps you are currently in debt and want to clear that debt. If you imagine this to be the case, your mind will come up with options and ways to help you to realise your goal and get back in the black because it's clever that way.
Have a go at these exercises and let me know how you get on by leaving on comment on this post.
Alternatively, if you're looking for some support in changing your behaviour - whether it's about money or anything else - please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
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Monday, 6 February 2012
Friday, 13 January 2012
Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back From What You Want?
Working with a client this morning prompted me to write this blog.
My client recognised that for all of her adult life to date she had been rebelling against her parent's frugal behaviour with money when she was a child.
One particular vivid memory was: 'My Mum used her own baking chocolate on cheap plain biscuits' and 'I decided then that I would always be in a position that meant being able to buy nice tasting biscuits'.
My client recognised she had behaved at the opposite extreme of spending all her money quickly based on one belief that 'I shouldn't have money' and another 'I feel more comfortable when I do not have money'.
Our beliefs are very powerful and do an excellent job at determining our behaviour even when we don't consciously want to carry out a particular behaviour
Does this sound familiar?
What behaviours do you want to change because on a conscious intellectual level you know that the behaviour is stupid or childish?
If we are not able to make changes at a conscious level then we need to look to our unconscious beliefs for evidence of what is driving the unwanted behaviour, such as, spending all of our money.
When I asked my client what she wanted she said: 'To take more pleasure from saving personally and at work' and 'To strike a balance between spending and saving'.
Our core beliefs about ourselves, others and the world we live in are often formed before we are 10 years old.
In order to make changes in our behaviour we need to work on changing our beliefs.
How do we do that?
I help my clients using a combination of Solution Focused questioning to understand what they wants - specifically:
Think about which beliefs you currently have which are driving those behaviours.
Think about why you want to change - What do you have to gain? This will help to rev up your motivational intent.
Start by doing the visualisation exercise on my previous blog - Visualisation Is Key To Making Your Changes Stick.
In the next few days, as you think of this more, you will - often quite subconsciously - start to think about what you need to do to make the changes that you want to make for yourself.
If you have found this blog to be useful please leave a comment or if you would like help please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling, via email at enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or by calling us on our confidential answering machine service at 01761 237 400.
My client recognised that for all of her adult life to date she had been rebelling against her parent's frugal behaviour with money when she was a child.
One particular vivid memory was: 'My Mum used her own baking chocolate on cheap plain biscuits' and 'I decided then that I would always be in a position that meant being able to buy nice tasting biscuits'.
My client recognised she had behaved at the opposite extreme of spending all her money quickly based on one belief that 'I shouldn't have money' and another 'I feel more comfortable when I do not have money'.
Our beliefs are very powerful and do an excellent job at determining our behaviour even when we don't consciously want to carry out a particular behaviour
Does this sound familiar?
What behaviours do you want to change because on a conscious intellectual level you know that the behaviour is stupid or childish?
If we are not able to make changes at a conscious level then we need to look to our unconscious beliefs for evidence of what is driving the unwanted behaviour, such as, spending all of our money.
When I asked my client what she wanted she said: 'To take more pleasure from saving personally and at work' and 'To strike a balance between spending and saving'.
Our core beliefs about ourselves, others and the world we live in are often formed before we are 10 years old.
In order to make changes in our behaviour we need to work on changing our beliefs.
How do we do that?
I help my clients using a combination of Solution Focused questioning to understand what they wants - specifically:
- Hypnotherapy - Helps me to access the client's unconscious mind which is more accepting of new ideas for consideration
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) visualisation and linguistic techniques
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) - Offers tools and techniques for shifting thinking patterns
Think about which beliefs you currently have which are driving those behaviours.
Think about why you want to change - What do you have to gain? This will help to rev up your motivational intent.
Start by doing the visualisation exercise on my previous blog - Visualisation Is Key To Making Your Changes Stick.
In the next few days, as you think of this more, you will - often quite subconsciously - start to think about what you need to do to make the changes that you want to make for yourself.
If you have found this blog to be useful please leave a comment or if you would like help please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling, via email at enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or by calling us on our confidential answering machine service at 01761 237 400.
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