Are you like the vast majority of people who recognise that they do not like speaking about their financial position?
For one of my clients this issue has resulted in her feeling uncomfortable having money and therefore she spends as she earns and has no savings.
Recently she set herself a goal of saving for those things that her and her partner want which are 'bigger ticket' - including a conservatory and a replacement car.
Her beliefs around money including 'I believe I shouldn't have money' and 'Easy come easy go' - among others - were impacting her behaviour.
She has now set herself a new goal 'To get pleasure from saving and to think 'Do I need it?' before spending'.
She recognised that to enjoy life in the present and to plan for the future she needed a balance between spending and saving so she could be proud of herself.
In order to work on her goal we spent time visualising her spending and saving some money and this mindful approach left her feeling more comfortable and more in control.
Would you benefit from experimenting with visualising yourself in this way?
Perhaps set aside some time to sit quietly in a comfortable chair, then to close your eyes and relax your body - perhaps by imagining yourself in some place which you find tranquil.
Then imagine yourself saving an amount that you can contract with yourself each month - perhaps in a savings account - and imagine realising what you are saving for - something for someone else perhaps.
Perhaps you are currently in debt and want to clear that debt. If you imagine this to be the case, your mind will come up with options and ways to help you to realise your goal and get back in the black because it's clever that way.
Have a go at these exercises and let me know how you get on by leaving on comment on this post.
Alternatively, if you're looking for some support in changing your behaviour - whether it's about money or anything else - please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
Showing posts with label behavioural change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label behavioural change. Show all posts
Monday, 6 February 2012
Monday, 23 January 2012
New Year Weight Loss Goal
The most common New Year's resolution is to lose weight and get healthy.
If this is you and this time you have 100% intent and you mean it then I think that you may want to try the following to set you on your way to achieving your goal.
Our beliefs and values drive our behaviours. Knowing this you can start to work on your weight loss goal.
1. Start by writing down all of the beliefs you currently have which are driving the old unwanted behaviour of eating too much and not exercising. For example:
Keep brainstorming to identify the beliefs which you think have led to your being where you are.
2. Now write down some different beliefs that you are motivated by and which you think are realistic for you and will help you to achieve your goal. For example:
Keep brainstorming new, realistic, motivating beliefs that you personally can believe in.
Once your list is complete write them on a card for your purse or wallet and put another on the fridge or food cupboard.
Now, read your new beliefs each day for at least a couple of weeks to allow the new beliefs to become embedded in your subconscious mind.
These new beliefs will help to drive new behaviours which will assist you in achieving your weight loss goal.
Please do let us know if this blog has been useful by posting a comment and if you would like assistance with this or any other goal please consider us as your support resource and get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
If this is you and this time you have 100% intent and you mean it then I think that you may want to try the following to set you on your way to achieving your goal.
Our beliefs and values drive our behaviours. Knowing this you can start to work on your weight loss goal.
1. Start by writing down all of the beliefs you currently have which are driving the old unwanted behaviour of eating too much and not exercising. For example:
- I won't be able to lose weight
- I don't have time to exercise
- When I feel bad I eat
- When I feel I deserve a reward I eat
- I need sugar to get through the day
- My boss drives me to eat a lot of chocolate
Keep brainstorming to identify the beliefs which you think have led to your being where you are.
2. Now write down some different beliefs that you are motivated by and which you think are realistic for you and will help you to achieve your goal. For example:
- Sugar is toxic and does not fuel my body so I eat little of it
- I eat to fuel my body with whole fresh foods including fruit, veg, fish, poultry, eggs, nuts and whole grains like seeded bread and porridge oats
- Eating healthy at least 75% of the time makes me feel energised so I can do want I want in the day
- I notice hunger as my tummy rumbles and I feel empty
- I always pause before I put something in my mouth and think about the consequences
- When I eat out I am happy to order 'off menu' at times so I feel in control
Keep brainstorming new, realistic, motivating beliefs that you personally can believe in.
Once your list is complete write them on a card for your purse or wallet and put another on the fridge or food cupboard.
Now, read your new beliefs each day for at least a couple of weeks to allow the new beliefs to become embedded in your subconscious mind.
These new beliefs will help to drive new behaviours which will assist you in achieving your weight loss goal.
Please do let us know if this blog has been useful by posting a comment and if you would like assistance with this or any other goal please consider us as your support resource and get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
Monday, 16 January 2012
Health and Well-Being Coaching
Do you feel that you want to improve your health and well-being and want some simple strategy which works in a sustainable way?
I am Type 1 Diabetic and was diagnosed when I was 37 years old.
This life change forced me to look at food as fuel rather than anything else, such as, 'something to do when bored, stressed or celebrating'.
I wanted to know what foods would satisfy me and keep my blood sugars even rather than spiking up and down. I did a lot of research and self-experimenting to find out what foods made me feel good.
The Caveman Diet works well for fuel - if it walks, grows or swims you can eat it.
Fresh fruit, vegetables, lean protein, nuts and seeds, are all you need. Try just eating these foods for 5 days and notice how your stomach looks less bloated and how you feel more energised.
I learned that sugar - refined and processed - is poison to my body and mind with long-term toxic complications which could cause me blindness, loss of limbs, heart problems etc.
I learned that drinking more than one to two glasses of wine a couple of nights a week impacted my sleep, making me tired the next day and more likely to reach for something processed rather than whole perishable foods.
I learned that sugar is present in bread, cereals, wheat, rice, pasta, milk, dry beans, processed food and bought soups. Eating these foods caused blood sugar swings, mood swings, tiredness and sluggishness.
We are all different. You will want to set your own boundaries around food and alcohol. Do your own experimenting.
My own experience has taught me that we tend not to overindulge in whole healthy foods like fish, chicken, vegetables, salad and fresh fruit because these satisfy us and keep us full for longer.
We do tend to overindulge in breads and other carbs because they cause sugar dips and spikes encouraging us to eat more to get the next spike when in a dip. Removing them completely avoids this vicious circle.
My biggest tip is that since your beliefs drive your behaviour, believing the content of this blog will help you to do what you want and feel well.
Let me know if this simple strategy is helpful by leaving a comment perhaps after you have given the 5 day trial a go.
For all of your life changing goals we are totally committed to help you to get what you want.
Take your first step by contacting us through our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
I am Type 1 Diabetic and was diagnosed when I was 37 years old.
This life change forced me to look at food as fuel rather than anything else, such as, 'something to do when bored, stressed or celebrating'.
I wanted to know what foods would satisfy me and keep my blood sugars even rather than spiking up and down. I did a lot of research and self-experimenting to find out what foods made me feel good.
The Caveman Diet works well for fuel - if it walks, grows or swims you can eat it.
Fresh fruit, vegetables, lean protein, nuts and seeds, are all you need. Try just eating these foods for 5 days and notice how your stomach looks less bloated and how you feel more energised.
I learned that sugar - refined and processed - is poison to my body and mind with long-term toxic complications which could cause me blindness, loss of limbs, heart problems etc.
I learned that drinking more than one to two glasses of wine a couple of nights a week impacted my sleep, making me tired the next day and more likely to reach for something processed rather than whole perishable foods.
I learned that sugar is present in bread, cereals, wheat, rice, pasta, milk, dry beans, processed food and bought soups. Eating these foods caused blood sugar swings, mood swings, tiredness and sluggishness.
We are all different. You will want to set your own boundaries around food and alcohol. Do your own experimenting.
My own experience has taught me that we tend not to overindulge in whole healthy foods like fish, chicken, vegetables, salad and fresh fruit because these satisfy us and keep us full for longer.
We do tend to overindulge in breads and other carbs because they cause sugar dips and spikes encouraging us to eat more to get the next spike when in a dip. Removing them completely avoids this vicious circle.
My biggest tip is that since your beliefs drive your behaviour, believing the content of this blog will help you to do what you want and feel well.
Let me know if this simple strategy is helpful by leaving a comment perhaps after you have given the 5 day trial a go.
For all of your life changing goals we are totally committed to help you to get what you want.
Take your first step by contacting us through our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling.
Friday, 13 January 2012
Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back From What You Want?
Working with a client this morning prompted me to write this blog.
My client recognised that for all of her adult life to date she had been rebelling against her parent's frugal behaviour with money when she was a child.
One particular vivid memory was: 'My Mum used her own baking chocolate on cheap plain biscuits' and 'I decided then that I would always be in a position that meant being able to buy nice tasting biscuits'.
My client recognised she had behaved at the opposite extreme of spending all her money quickly based on one belief that 'I shouldn't have money' and another 'I feel more comfortable when I do not have money'.
Our beliefs are very powerful and do an excellent job at determining our behaviour even when we don't consciously want to carry out a particular behaviour
Does this sound familiar?
What behaviours do you want to change because on a conscious intellectual level you know that the behaviour is stupid or childish?
If we are not able to make changes at a conscious level then we need to look to our unconscious beliefs for evidence of what is driving the unwanted behaviour, such as, spending all of our money.
When I asked my client what she wanted she said: 'To take more pleasure from saving personally and at work' and 'To strike a balance between spending and saving'.
Our core beliefs about ourselves, others and the world we live in are often formed before we are 10 years old.
In order to make changes in our behaviour we need to work on changing our beliefs.
How do we do that?
I help my clients using a combination of Solution Focused questioning to understand what they wants - specifically:
Think about which beliefs you currently have which are driving those behaviours.
Think about why you want to change - What do you have to gain? This will help to rev up your motivational intent.
Start by doing the visualisation exercise on my previous blog - Visualisation Is Key To Making Your Changes Stick.
In the next few days, as you think of this more, you will - often quite subconsciously - start to think about what you need to do to make the changes that you want to make for yourself.
If you have found this blog to be useful please leave a comment or if you would like help please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling, via email at enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or by calling us on our confidential answering machine service at 01761 237 400.
My client recognised that for all of her adult life to date she had been rebelling against her parent's frugal behaviour with money when she was a child.
One particular vivid memory was: 'My Mum used her own baking chocolate on cheap plain biscuits' and 'I decided then that I would always be in a position that meant being able to buy nice tasting biscuits'.
My client recognised she had behaved at the opposite extreme of spending all her money quickly based on one belief that 'I shouldn't have money' and another 'I feel more comfortable when I do not have money'.
Our beliefs are very powerful and do an excellent job at determining our behaviour even when we don't consciously want to carry out a particular behaviour
Does this sound familiar?
What behaviours do you want to change because on a conscious intellectual level you know that the behaviour is stupid or childish?
If we are not able to make changes at a conscious level then we need to look to our unconscious beliefs for evidence of what is driving the unwanted behaviour, such as, spending all of our money.
When I asked my client what she wanted she said: 'To take more pleasure from saving personally and at work' and 'To strike a balance between spending and saving'.
Our core beliefs about ourselves, others and the world we live in are often formed before we are 10 years old.
In order to make changes in our behaviour we need to work on changing our beliefs.
How do we do that?
I help my clients using a combination of Solution Focused questioning to understand what they wants - specifically:
- Hypnotherapy - Helps me to access the client's unconscious mind which is more accepting of new ideas for consideration
- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) visualisation and linguistic techniques
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) - Offers tools and techniques for shifting thinking patterns
Think about which beliefs you currently have which are driving those behaviours.
Think about why you want to change - What do you have to gain? This will help to rev up your motivational intent.
Start by doing the visualisation exercise on my previous blog - Visualisation Is Key To Making Your Changes Stick.
In the next few days, as you think of this more, you will - often quite subconsciously - start to think about what you need to do to make the changes that you want to make for yourself.
If you have found this blog to be useful please leave a comment or if you would like help please get in touch via our website at West of England Coaching and Counselling, via email at enquiries@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk or by calling us on our confidential answering machine service at 01761 237 400.
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