If you are finding that you are putting off the changes that you want to make, try this:
1. Use information such as models, methods, information and make them yours. Practice and then adapt them. An example would be you want to be healthy. Like most people you have the information to do this. Only when you make that information work for you as a unique individual will you have a deeper understanding of the difference between knowledge and actual implemented behaviour.
2. Set a goal around becoming your own advocate, taking responsibility for being your best self. Get real. What are your fears and what is stopping you from being the best version of you? Do you need to get support?
3. This is the present. The past has gone and we do not know the future. Let any negative stories about the past or projection of what may happen go. Our past does not dictate our future either. Get and stay present, it's a gift! There is just today. When you do this you are in your rational mind, in intellectual control. The emotions that you do feel will largely be good. We only create dysfunctional negative emotions by negative introspection of the past and negative forecasting the future. Your senses are alert and you can choose the thinking that will create the right behaviours, actions and results.
4. Safe is staying in your comfort zone. Your learning zone is beyond that. Just forget the danger zone! Take baby steps to do this. Choose thinking that will help. Physiology is powerful to reframe your thinking. Believe me. The fitter and healthier I became physically through movement and consumption the more positive my neural networks became. I faced everything in my day positively, doing my best and accepting setbacks rather than criticising myself for inevitable imperfection!
5. Once you get to this step you will feel connected to your purpose with energy. For me this meant intuitively knowing where to focus from waking at 4am each day! My day starts with reflecting on my health, relationships, work and finances and planning what actions to take.
Go well. Go steady. For help and support contact me via pam@westofenglandcoachingandcounselling.co.uk
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